For as long as I can remember the week between Christmas and New Year’s was its own thing, suspended in a weird time space continuum, where, about mid-week, we awoke, all fuzzy and confused, not knowing the day, much less the time.
Then COVID, and we spent almost two years suspended and unaware of the calendars growing cobwebs on our walls and desks and in our purses. It robbed us of a great deal, but especially that delicious sense of floating through a day, a week, innocent as babes. We COVID we floated a lot longer.
It is my favorite post-Christmas activity–falling asleep sitting up, at nine, at noon, at three. To fall asleep at the drop of a hat is charming, especially after all the activity and stress of holiday preparations, the buzzing of chores banging around your brain just as you lie down for the night, the hectic activity to make things perfect, although the slobs for whom the effort is made never notice, and certainly never toss a compliment your way.
My niece, the young mother of a two-year old and ten-month old twins couldn’t believe how tired she was, how much she craved sleep two days after she threw a family celebration for thirty people. There were kids running everywhere, games going on, food to be refreshed, toys to corral and corral again. And please don’t step on the babies.
Two days later, nestled in a corner of the couch, she thought she was coming down with something. Well, yes, she was coming down, but not with a virus. She was coming down from the holidays. I think she hadn’t experienced it before. I get it. When I was younger, the week between the holidays was dedicated to meeting up with friends, sleeping late and making excuses to avoid lesser family obligations. About the only thing I had to do was laundry, and that was so I would look cute when I went out–every night.
I am in awe of how she and her husband do it. This year they have moved, worked on the house, with three children two and under, kept that house tidy and inviting. They speak sweetly to the babies, work hard all the time.
But, eventually, everyone’s energy runs out, and for the first time ever, you don’t know what day of the week it is. And that was Kate on Monday. While she took a bath, I played with Gretchen, who is named for my mother, but I pretend she is named for me, too. We have fun, old Gretch and I, when she isn’t glued to Miss Rachel.
Katie seemed genuinely surprised to learn that sleepy feeling after the holiday was perfectly normal. That some of those yawns signaled a state of relaxation, not just exhaustion. She hadn’t connected those dots, but it’s true.
I’m not very good about knowing what I am feeling from one moment to the next. I’ve trained myself to take a moment, check in with myself, but I’m not always successful at it. But I have nailed, absolutely nailed, a high level of sloth between Christmas and New Year. It rejuvenates me.
Then, in these first gray days of January, I keep the feeling going. Gently. I get moving a bit more, take down the tree, organize a closet, or at the very least, my purse. But what else should we do in these first weeks of January? Nothing, I tell ya. I watched several documentaries about medieval Christmases, where no one worked at all between Christmas Eve and Twelfth Night, which is January 6, Epiphany. It surely kept the letdown at bay. And the holiday was given so much space and attention, with a new feast or celebration on almost every single day.
Such a contrast to the way we run around, shop, wrap, bake, decorate for a month or more, all frazzled and cranky, culminating in a twenty minute meal and a short frenzy of flying wrapping paper and spilled eggnog. In the absence of a medieval celebration, I think I will keep the holiday going in my own little way. Ease into the New Year, nothing much doing until the day after Epiphany. Join me.